28 July 2007

Sad Anniversary

One year ago today my father-in-law passed away. I was wondering about that this morning - if these year markers in heaven are like a birthday. It has been a difficult year for my mother-in-law. She told me yesterday that she was thinking that for a whole year she hadn't been able to talk to him. I feel sad for her. We are headed to meet up with her and my sister-in-law and to put flowers on his grave. In heaven I wonder if he cares about such things as flowers, or if he truly understands the temporary state of all that this earth has to offer. We will do it anyway to honor his memory and to stand beside my mother-in-law, because of love.

6 comments:

  1. Has it really been a whole year?? My, that has gone fast. Though not for your MIL I'm sure. Praying for you all. I don't think there is anything wrong with remembering those we have lost and laying a few flowers on their grave now and then. However, when I was a florist we had one customer who came in every week and bought a big arrangement for her son's grave who had died years before. She spent hundreds of pounds a year, including balloons for his birthday, and special things for every holiday! I felt that all that money would be better spent in memorial to him helping someone else, like through a charity. Oh well! Just my opinion.

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  2. These anniversaries are hard for us here on earth. I do not believe that heaven is bound by time, not the way we understand it. I don't think there's anything wrong with remembering loved ones with flowers but I'm sure it's more for our benefit than theirs. I'm praying for your family today. God bless!

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  3. Karen said exactly what I wanted to. We do these things for us usually, and that is a good thing to do as a family. Praying for you all as well.

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  4. Thank you for sharing your eloquent words. I am praying for you and your family.

    Blessings-
    Jenny

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  5. It's hard to believe it's been a full year. I remember when you blogged about his death. I am so sorry, and I am praying for you all, especially your MIL.
    I don't know if you remember me or not, but I was over on HSB.
    Well, I'm glad I found your blog again. I missed coming and seeing what exciting things you've been up to!
    Kathy

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  6. Praying for your mother-in-law. It makes me extra sad to think about what she said-- a whole year without talking. I could just cry.

    That is love, isn't it? When it's not just the presence or actions or deeds that are missed, but the words as well.

    A reminder that I need to be more wise with the words that God allows me to speak every single day!

    Love,
    Marsha

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