tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-706394268101035148.post4636442378036929542..comments2023-10-15T07:57:24.527-05:00Comments on Just Juls: TiredJust Julshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08373348890004668952noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-706394268101035148.post-82446125361143846482008-08-12T14:28:00.000-05:002008-08-12T14:28:00.000-05:00I'm sorry, Julie. Sometimes love sucks... the lif...I'm sorry, Julie. Sometimes love sucks... the life out of you!Free Spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00942692680513002360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-706394268101035148.post-65677613063503211882008-08-11T20:58:00.000-05:002008-08-11T20:58:00.000-05:00I'm not going to say punish them. That never work...I'm not going to say punish them. That never works. It only makes them feel ill/angry/belittled. The best that I can do when I start to feel taken advantage of is to realize that I never asked them if they wanted to be brought into this world. I am their Mom and my job is to take care of them and the house. Period. Often, I could use more help. But when I look back, I find that I do have help; in ways that I never imagined or have forgotten. And often when I least expect it or ask for it. Sometimes it is the little things. The other thing that I keep in mind is childhood and the freedom of it is short. Life will be full of responsibilities and chores that they will never escape. I'm choosing to let my kids enjoy as much as possible now.<BR/><BR/>It's not a solution or advice, just how I view it.<BR/><BR/>I do feel for you greatly. I know you have mentioned this before and it is a dilemma that keeps coming up.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08312416207958944255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-706394268101035148.post-23004732477992339372008-08-11T20:49:00.000-05:002008-08-11T20:49:00.000-05:00damn typosdamn typosStephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02652491287049439814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-706394268101035148.post-441437059086778962008-08-11T20:48:00.000-05:002008-08-11T20:48:00.000-05:00I completely disagree and they have jobs to go to,...I completely disagree and they have jobs to go to, you don't miss work cause you didn't do a chore at home. What if my husband forgot to do something I asked, he can't miss work until he does it, sheesh that is just not logical.<BR/>Maybe she can not take them to the movies or the mall but you don't miss your job that is irresponsible.<BR/>That is just like when a child is warm and doean't want to bring a jacket, then night falls and they are cold. The parent says oh well you suffer the consequences of not bringing a coat. The right thing to do is for the parent to just bring a coat for just in case.<BR/><BR/>I won't offer you any advice here, you know where to find my Jewls.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02652491287049439814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-706394268101035148.post-46930706729516358032008-08-11T19:07:00.000-05:002008-08-11T19:07:00.000-05:00Do a google search on Kevin Lehman and reality d...Do a google search on Kevin Lehman and reality discipline. Basically, you do not ground or punish, but let life's reality be the teacher. For instance, in the example you gave, people did not do the work designated to them which is needed to keep home running smoothly. When it is time for work you calmly inform them that you will not be taking them, as they did do what they were supposed to. They suffer the consequences at work, whether it be docking of pay or whatever. It isn't punishing or controlling, just real life. <BR/>And the reality for you, my friend, is that no matter how you want to live in love and respect, you are the parent, and it is your job to send them out in the world as the best possible them they can be. And that means sometimes they won't like you for the moment, day or week. Sometimes the right things hurt a little in the moment but the outcome is for the better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-706394268101035148.post-88901460563283116042008-08-11T14:16:00.000-05:002008-08-11T14:16:00.000-05:00Preaching to the choir, I hear ya! No solutions, ...Preaching to the choir, I hear ya! No solutions, just understanding.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058625869570103412noreply@blogger.com